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Courtship may be completely left out in case of arranged marriages where the couple doesn't meet before the wedding. Always getting what one wants, never exercising a sense of self worth and expecting ones desires to happen is a recipe for a self-centered selfishness more shallow then the shallowest plash.

However, things can get complicated when it comes to those inevitable arguments. The New York Times. Delete everything related to him as well as his elements history. Please give me some advice. Some Turkish guys whilst I was staying at the bar approached and we started talking. If you are dating a Turkish man or woman, there are no other men or women that exist anymore.

Some cultures require people to wait until a certain age to begin dating, which has been a source of controversy. A brave lover in Beijing must be prepared to accept a paradigm shift to enjoy the cross-cultural dating experience.

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Obviously internet dating is a minefield of predatory men who are only after one thing. Is this a common problem? Are we non Persian girls just for dating or bedding? I would be interested in your thoughts as I am getting quite disheartened at the attitudes. We are not all on spring break! I hope that many members of our community write in and share their thoughts as well, and I hope that some of them serve to provide evidence contrary to your assumptions. I am, of course, not saying that your assumptions are incorrect. I think, very unfortunately, that there are some cultural stereotypes in both directions! I, too, have heard many times from Iranian men or men from any of the middle-eastern cultures for that matter that they are happy to date American or non-Iranian women, but that they would never marry one. I believe that some of this is related to the perception that they will more likely find a virgin in the more conservative and traditional of the two cultures the middle-eastern one , but that it also relates to cultural similarities. Now, perhaps if you were able to get statistics on the numbers of girls who were virgins in each culture, the numbers might be skewed in the direction of the more liberal culture. However, I would also imagine that these statistics would be questionable unless obtained through physical exam since solely self-report would likely yield inaccurate data from the middle-eastern side. Because of the pressure to be a virgin, many middle-eastern girls lie, and some even get themselves sewn up as barbaric and unnecessary as that sounds. I think that there is this perception perpetuated by parents and taught to their children generation after generation — that is based more on ideals than on reality. The times are changing in ALL cultures and the younger generations across the world are probably becoming more alike than they ever were in the past because of technology, the internet, ease of travel, and so forth. Furthermore, there are just certain human factors that no culture can overcome. Physiologically, in adolescence we are walking sex hormones, bubbling over and barely in control. Whether or not we establish barriers social, cultural, familial , teenagers will be teenagers and they will do what they want to do, often without our knowledge. Talking to our kids with honesty and allowing them to open up to us is the BEST way for us to protect them and INFORM them. Ah, but I digress. So, back to your predicament. But, the one thing that you can control is your own behavior. You cannot nor are you responsible for changing the way all Iranians think, but you can still meet a man and change the way HE thinks because of your assertiveness and confidence about this topic. Try not to generalize too much. It happens in both directions, right? Iranian men get a bad rap for being male chauvinistic, abusive, possessive, jealous, insecure, hairy, fixated on jokes related to bowel movements, and it goes on and on. We cannot do much to change these OVERgeneralizing stereotypes on a global level, but we can talk about it. Try not to be too cynical. I have met Iranian men who break all the molds and American women who do too. I believe that the world would be a much better place if we all approached things like children do, without superficial discrimination. Believe it or not, there are more differences WITHIN a culture than BETWEEN cultures…and research can back that up! Stay open and you will attract an Iranian man who is more open. One of them might marry you. Iranian men are actually among the more open-minded over many other tight-knit traditional cultures. They are known to marry American usually blonde! Ghaed, First of all, I would like to thank you for the enormous time you give to your readers on the website. I really enjoy browsing through your valuable advice page responses. Sometimes I receive a letter from a male member starting with a very unfamiliar greeting. For example, the recent one came from a man whose initial age stated in his profile was 33; which he changed to 38 a day later! And from your pic, i like your comportment also. I would like us to get to know each other and start as friends and see how we can go from there. Hope to hear from you soon. However, I replied just saying thanks for his time and that I really appreciate his message, but that I do not think that I would be quite the right match for him. At the end of my short e-mail I wished him all the best in his search. When I am out in the world, I would prefer not to be considered a spectacle, and if others see me that way, I hope they keep it to themselves. Do I have to explain my motives for not wishing to communicate further? Thank you for your assistance in this matter. I look forward to hearing from you. G, I thoroughly enjoy your column and consider you to be very wise and open-minded. I am Iranian and I started a relationship with an Iranian guy five months ago. He is very sweet and persistent and showered me with attention, compliments, etc. He treated me so well that I agreed to be his girlfriend after a month. But a few months later, we got stuck in a routine and I found that I was not challenged or inspired by him. He is an engineer and a more recent immigrant from Europe and I am an attorney who grew up in America. I found that the conversations between us was warm but not stimulating. I decided to break up with him because I was not growing stronger in the relationship, but he would not let me go. I tried to break up three or four times but his persistence and kind words of love kept reigning me back in. I finally made it clear that I wanted to see other people and he left but he became determined to stay friends. The next weekend I saw him leaving a club with another woman! I felt as though a knife had entered my heart, and I kept seeing his face everywhere. But I knew that he was perfectly entitled to that new happiness. I emailed him to say that it would probably hurt too much to stay friends but that I wished him future happiness. Now he is calling me again and urging me to get back together with him. He says that I should give him a chance to try to work through our problems. The relationship just feels so imbalanced at this point. I would appreciate any advice you could impart. G, I met a Persian girl sometime back. From the get-go she was nice flirtatious. I could tell she was older than me based on her appearance and she assumed I am in her age group. Within matter of a few hours she asked my age, and I was very reluctant to tell her the magic number since I knew the aftermath was not going to be pleasant. Anyways, as soon as she found out my age it was exactly like water on a burning log. She stopped the flirting and the smile turned upside down. We decided to exchange info and depart. I kept in touch with her and met her over the course of the few months that followed this event. Being the only female that has ever caused me to stutter and not get mind right in other words, got me trippin , I decided to talk to her and try to evolve this relationship. She told me that my age difference was too big of a deal for her. She could deal with a couple years of difference not more. She mentioned that in a couple years if I was still interested she would be up to it since I would be older. I did not let this event stop my social life. I have been dating others and not tying myself down, however I have been in close contact with her and visit each other on a regular basis. It the age difference that I need to somehow get passed her. I am not really looking to hear you should forget her because that is not the problem; finding away to convince her is my goal. Sorry for the Lengthy description. Thanks for your help. I had met someone online he is 32 and naturally we live in two different countries with different backgrounds. I am divorced and he has never been married but had several relationships in the past. He lives in Tehran, however travels alot and he claims being rich , busy man and in good socioeconomic class. I am calling him everyday internationally several times per day. He says he likes me so much that he want to express that intimately and i am being preserved and would like to have intimacy under the umbrella of marriage. He sounds very passionate and compassionate person whenever we communicate , but his behaviour is worrying me please guide me. In my gut, I know that I want to marry an Iranian American woman, but frankly the lack of meeting the right one is really starting to bumm me out… Have you heard any of these similar generalizations before, or seen this situation yourself at all? What words of wisdom could you share, so that when enshallah I come across the right Iranian American girl… things are a smooth as possible? Mochaker… Seeking The One - Submitted by Male, 30, California Q: Hi Dr. I read your advices to other regularly. I have been a member of this site on and off for almost 8 months. I have been divorced for almost 8 years. I have a 9 years old daughter. The men I have so far met on this site have either used and abused me emotionally and financially. But at the same time I get attached to my guy. If he would take an inch for me I would take 100 steps for him. I know for sure I have a big heart. I am 37 but every one says I look and act like a 29 mature woman. I am serious about finding my future man and settling down. Just giving you a heads up that most of these Persian men on the site are just bunch of players and heart brokers. They are not young any more. They are over the age of 35 and even if they say they want to settle down and they want children, they always find an excuse to end a perfect relationship or use the girl friend. How can a single mom like me who is dying to find her soul mate and settle down find the right guy on this site????? Thanks for your time. When we met we both realized that we were a very good match and we decided to stay together. There was only one problem with this guy. He had a bad leg that he drags behind himself and he wears a leg brace too. Until now I still do not know what is wrong with his leg. Every time that I asked him he gave me a irrelevant answer and he got mad at me that I insist on finding out about his leg. After our 1 yr anniversary I decided that I will ask him this question again and he told that he is not comfortable talking about this. I tried to do some internet search his bad leg can be due to several diseases and his symptoms kind of match with MS. G, I have to say I love reading your letters. You manage to combine compassion and good sense - a delight, and instructive! I also have a lot of respect for his background. But this man is respectful, sweet natured, intelligent, passionate, expressive and honest. We are honest with each other. I finally managed to let him know roughly! It was only fair to let him know. I get a sense that he is still feeling some hurt from the past, and just has an awful lot to deal with right now he did ask me out in the past but I hesitated. If I was younger I would simply wait it out, to see, and give him time to get through things …. Should I make more of an effort to close off my feelings?